We women have rich fantasy lives. When we are with the wrong man and he is clearly lacking the qualities we want in a partner, we gladly supply them for him. We fill in the blanks instead of realizing he's wrong to begin with.
The most important quality a man must have, first and foremost, is that he is interested in us. We forget this; we hang on with hope and denial. And when that man, who is wrong for us anyway, loses interest, our egos kick in and all the weepy, bad behavior spirals into self-destruction and humiliation.
Sp how did I finally get over the bloody bastard? My epiphany occured in a astrologer's hovel. A preternatual sprite, she is the person who saved me life. Surrounded by dusty crystals and a yapping Yorkie, she leaned over the table, snapped off the recorder, and said, "Why are you doing this to yourself?"
--Be Honest - You're Not That Into Him Either by Ian Kerner
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We are good at filling in the blanks.
Here's to allowing them to lie fallow, if they stay that way from lack of interest.
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