Tuesday, March 08, 2011

JOT Day 79 - Weasel-free Zone This entire JOT project is about taking risks and putting myself out there in ways that feel right and push my comfort zone boundaries while still having fun. I started reading the Poke the Box workbook recently that accompanies the Domino Project Poke the Box publication. Among other things, it says, "This will require you to explore corners of your life where you hesitate, procrastinate, or weasel your way out because you're afraid." I like the distinction there. Sometimes we do those things because we really don't want to be doing them, and we said we would because we wanted to be perceived as nice. Which I guess still comes around to being afraid of being who we really are, without checking with the social acceptability police first. Granted, we have only been practicing those skills that we were taught way-y-y-y-y-y back when by people who passed them down because the same had been done for them. Breaking the chain of ancestral baggage is a noble cause, one that I think should be embraced more often. It is scary. But boy, does it feel good to let go of those artificial restraints that sap the life out of you. More: "The most common way people give up their power is by thinking they don't have any." - Alice Walker. Not that they don't have any, but that they THINK they don't have any. Cuz it's always within reach. It just might have been gathering dust in someone else's agenda for awhile. Taking it back requires courage and fortitude and having had enough of something, already. Actually, it only takes withdrawing your implicit consent with unspoken social agreements that are founded on faulty reasoning, otherwise known as lies. Most popular one? "You aren't good enough just the way you are." That's...

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