Friday, September 16, 2011

Don't practice believing; practice knowing I love it when a message comes to me through an unexpected source. Practicing some new thoughts around business was on my mind, and I picked up this book and turned to this passage: "The first thing you must tell yourself is that you can already do the technique," he continued. "Once you do that, you will be two giant steps ahead even before you start. The final step will be convincing you hands that they also know what to do." ..."What is coordination but a form of convincing?" he asked, spreading his hands and hunching his shoulders. "What?" "Is coordination anything more than a form of convincing?" he asked again. "What do you mean?" "Through practice and repetition, could it be that you are just convincing your muscles and you mind that they already know what to do? Maybe that's the primary function of practicing." "Uh, maybe so, I replied, trying to keep up. He pointed his long index finger at me and continued. "Now, what do you think would happen if you could convince yourself first, at the beginning of your quest? In other words, before you start practicing anything, convince yourself you can already do it. What would happen then? I'll tell you. Depending on how well you do at the convincing part, you will cut your practice time in half. use the full potential of your mind, and practice will become a thing of the past. How do you think I can play any instrument I choose? Do you think I've practiced them all? Can you imagine a master like the Buddha having to practice before he could play the bass?" ..."Stop it!" I responded in my own familiar way. "Just tell ne the truth." "Truth? What is truth? Truth is up to you. You make...
7 Milestones to the Connected and Committed Relationship One of the most annoying things about relationships that mystified me for years was the deja vu effect: the phenomenon of the same kind of potential partner showing up, bringing very little variation on the theme of emotional unavailability to the table. There were slight improvements from one to the next, but not to the point where I experienced connected and committed, what I was shooting for, what I knew was possible. Until I got connected with and committed to myself. There were seven milestones along the way to my understanding of what that meant, seven key realizations that I eventually came to through hard work, intention, and a need to know that just would not let me be. Each of those "Ah-ha!" moments are available to anyone who is ready for them. I offer them to you here in the hopes of adding one to your collection when the opportunity shows up today. Which it will. Those opportunities are endless. Whether we choose to view them as such is another story, which is a great segue into Number One: #1 - Keep looking for the intellectual framework that explains how the universe works to your satisfaction. This could be a religious or spiritual practice, or a body of work by an certain author, or a combination of a few different ideas. Whatever those pieces of wisdom are, you'll know them when you bump into them because of how the teachings resonate with you, how they fill in the gaps where other frameworks were lacking, and especially in how they make you feel on a daily basis. Having an answer to the "why" and "how" of our existence makes the "how" and the "why" of relationship yin and yang easier to find. My own personal cosmology is eclectic and diverse,...

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